1 Corinthians 14:35 English Standard Version (ESV) If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.

Today’s society will question the validity of a woman remaining silent in church. If a woman’s silence is the point of discussion, then the real shame is being overlooked. It is not the woman that is to be shamed, it is her husband.

The husband that leads his family in every aspect physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually will find a wife that is supportive and considerate. She will feel comfortable to ask her husband difficult questions because he has demonstrated capability and worthiness of trust.

If we are honest with ourselves a troubled home is one where the husband and father has not fulfilled his duties. Absentee husbands cause the woman undue stress to perform parenting tasks alone. Everyone needs a helpmate.

Genesis 2:18 English Standard Version (ESV) Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for^[a] him.”

Footnotes: a Or corresponding to;

The footnote is important because it goes beyond a fit helper, it indicates co-responsibility.  If we do not live up to our responsibilities, we let our partners down. Putting gender roles aside for a minute it is the responsibility of a couple to discover and develop their own gifts. A helpmate will encourage and cooperate in this endeavor. A gifted and dedicated partner makes life easier for both.

Over the years I have learned that a man who takes care of all his responsibilities will discover a supportive wife, one that does not work at odds with his efforts. If he is following God’s plan for his life, he will discover that his wife will be his greatest supporter and add unlimited value to their partnership.

Don’t and the partners will be at odds with each other and God’s plan.