John 17:23 I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me.
The abiding love of God is perfect love. We are not perfect but His love is perfect as He is perfect. This is why I said at the onset of this series that this is a matter of condition of conscience. A changed heart, a changed conscience, a change in behavior, and a change in how we reflect His abiding love.
At one point I said to substitute love for will understand Romans 12:2. Can you see that substituting our will with His love perfects our motivations and choices? Motivation and choices that are based on perfect love will always lead to better results than personal will.
Do you feel the deep abiding love of God within you? If the answer is not a resounding confident yes, then you need to work on your relationship with God. More prayer, communication, more bible study, communication, more faith, communication, more obedience of faith, communication, all these things are basic communication skills in our relationship with our God.
The mature man allows the engrafted word of God (James 1:21) to grow and fill his heart, mind and soul. Loving God with all your heart, mind, and soul is rooted in the engrafted word. Like anything that grows, it must be fed and attended. Pull out the weeds of sin in the garden of your heart.
Guard your heart with integrity and your mind and soul will follow.