John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
A measure of love is what you are willing to give up to show that love. God gave up His only Son. What will you give up? If you say you love someone, how do you prove that love?
Mark 12:30-34 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these. And the scribe said unto him, Well, Master, thou hast said the truth: for there is one God; and there is none other but he: And to love him with all the heart, and with all the understanding, and with all the soul, and with all the strength, and to love his neighbour as himself, is more than all whole burnt offerings and sacrifices. And when Jesus saw that he answered discreetly, he said unto him, Thou art not far from the kingdom of God. And no man after that durst ask him any question.
There is a difference between knowing the right answer and doing the right thing. They dared not ask any more questions because they knew in their hearts that they had not given their all in loving God. This I know because their whole existence had been performance based exercise in ritual. It is not that I judge them, the scriptures clearly indicate that.
The question left unasked here is simple. Is your expression of love performance based? Do you have an expectation of performance and if you do not see that expectation met, then love failed? That is the human aspect of love.
If I don’t get what I want, you don’t love me.