John 1:12-13 (English Standard Version)

 But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.

The issue of being born in the spirit is a matter of choice of when not if.

Matthew 6:10 “Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” 

His kingdom came when Jesus became King. His will is done on earth as it is in heaven.

Matthew 25:34 Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world.

His will is the foundational principle.

Ephesians 1:4 even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us,

It is our destiny to be children of God but when we choose to surrender is a matter of choice.

Since it is not a matter of human will, why did you choose to believe?

Don’t answer that. It doesn’t matter, you will come to love Him.

Ephesians 3:16-19 English Standard Version

 that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

Hebrews 10:35 Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward.

Luke 6:35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil.

Kind to the ungrateful and evil? Is that justice?

“Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.” Matt. 6

The practice of righteousness is its own reward. It glorifies God not self. The practice builds confidence. Do not throw it away.

Romans 9:22 What if God, desiring to show his wrath and to make known his power, has endured with much patience vessels of wrath prepared for destruction,

Let no man say that God did not give them every chance to repent and be saved.